Don’t be like Seinfield. Of all those girls he dated on the show, why did he still end up single? Was it simply because he never met the right one? How about the girl with man-hands. Or the one that only looks good in the right lighting (and horrible in others). Or maybe the one with bad hygiene. It’s simple, Seinfield suffered from being to picky.

Insight into how a guy thinks
When a single man encounters a woman, there is a certain train of thought that occurs. Much like a flow chart, he asks himself a series of questions and comes up with a yes or no answer that delivers him to a conclusion.

First question: is she hot?
Yes – I’m burning a hole in her staring so hard: There’s potential here, let’s give it a try…
Sort of – I can see how she can be perceived as pretty: Let’s get to know her, there’s a chance…
No – She has a big nose: Maybe she can be a friend.

What this question implies is that initial attraction is key. For some guys though, it takes too much to get the attraction going. Only Victoria Secret models or celebrities will do. You become too picky when you’ve only met her and already rejected her because you don’t like the way she dresses or the way she smiles.

Second question: is anything wrong with her?
Yes – She’s got the IQ of a rock: Maybe she can be a friend.
Sort of – Too shy, too quiet, too wild, etc: Nothing one date can’t figure out.
No – There’s a bight aura that surrounds her because she’s like an angel.

The second part of being too picky: When you do actually talk to the girl but pick her to death. She uses too much slang. She has a weird laugh. She has too much enthusiasm. She has bad grammar. She watches the Gilmore Girls. The point is, it could be anything.

Third question: flash forward 20 years, can you picture her ugly and something wrong with her?
Yes – She’s Angela Lansbury – Run. Now.
Perhaps – She’s Melanie Griffith – Can you live with it? Antonio Banderas can.
No – She’s Catherine Zeta Jones – Go ahead and start making payments for that diamond ring.

The purpose of this question is to basically forecast and use some visualization and see if we can “picture” being with this woman in the future. By answering this question honestly, we can save a lot of time (and money) before diving into a relationship that is destined to fail.

Your Level of Tolerance
From the above questions, the thought process of a man is not very involved. But, it can be answered and interpreted on many levels. What is attractive to one man is not attractive to another. What’s annoying to one man is endearing to another. The key to becoming not too picky is to lower that tolerance level to the point where you can live happily. I said live ‘happily’, not in a dreamland with a Victoria Secret model!

There’s nothing wrong with knowing what you want; but it’s got to be reasonable. Research shows that people of comparable attractive end up together. In other words, if you’re hot, statistics say you’re get someone hot. But if you’re ugly, tough luck mate.

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